VLOG | E4 | EVERYTHING about us is Caring

So far in this channel, it has been about how the nature of reality relates to us, or universal existing that becomes actively existing in living beings, or Caring.

I also talked in the last episode about how we are Caring, how Caring is the self, or a verb rather than a noun.

In this episode, I talk about how everything about us is Caring.

From our heads to our toes, our muscles and bones, our cardiovascular and respiratory systems, and everything else, it’s all Caring.

Collections of cells that are Caring, creating human systems that are Caring, its all Caring to keep us existing.

Evolution shaped what’s living, or what’s Existing/Caring.

Reproductive systems are for collectively existing, not individually existing.

When we understand that everything about us is Caring, we can understand all else, like our mental health, emotions, and relationships.

VLOG | E3 | The Caring Self is a Verb

See previous episodes on universal existing, actively existing, and Caring — understanding that Caring is what all living beings are doing. It’s a what’s happening, as opposed to what is, for the nature of reality and living reality, especially.

Obviously, we think of ourselves as a noun, literally related to a person, place, or thing. We do not think of ourselves as a verb, or an action, something that is happening. But that is exactly what we are.

As I have emphasized in the previous episodes, like all living beings, we are Caring. Calling ourselves a human being is a useful label to distinguish our living being from other living beings. But we are not, in reality, distinguishable like that.

Let me use some examples to make my point about being a verb, a happening. We are always breathing; or, it’s not like we take one breath that lasts a lifetime. Our heart is always beating, for similar reasons. Our cells are always metabolizing — again, they continue processing energy to continue existing. Life, or living, actually, is not a thing, a noun; it’s a verb, continuously happening.

Then, on top of that, it’s knowing what living beings are doing, or constantly Caring for their continued existing. That’s how we get to the point of knowing what we are, or Caring. Drop the self word, and leave it at that, Caring. That’s what we are.

VLOG | E2 | Universal existing, consciousness, and the caring self

This episode is based on the Universal Law of Existing, which you can read in my blog post and watch in the previous episode, the first episode of this channel.

The goal here is to summarize ideas on consciousness and the self, as we human beings have debated this for centuries, probably thousands of years.

From Universal Existing, eventually we get living beings, which are actively existing, as I described in my previous episode.

From studying the research, especially the biologists who talk about how life may have began, something had to be present in living beings to continue existing, and that something would be an awareness of its in environment, especially of its food, or other sources of energy.

That is exactly where I believe awareness started, or had to start happening, and continues to be happening, in every living being.

A single cell living being has to be aware of its environment, especially of its food source; it has to distinguish between food and non-food, or the energy it needs to continue existing.

When I studied consciousness and the self in my first Master’s degree in the late 1990s, I really liked one of my professors’ book about consciousness, as he basically broke it down into two: primary consciousness and reflective consciousness.

Primary consciousness is an awareness of the world around you, which all living beings have, which I just explained. But reflective consciousness is something only a few living beings have, like perhaps dolphins, chimpanzees, and, most certainly, us human beings.

That means we are aware of ourselves like we are aware of our environment — we KNOW what we are, and that is consciousness, and the self — nothing more, nothing less.

This relates to the caring self because we living beings are actively existing, or caring, and that’s exactly what we are — our self is nothing more and nothing less than CARING.

We need to know what we are, literally because we CAN know what we are — due to reflective awareness, or reflective consciousness.

We are the caring self, similar to any living being, and that has enormous implications on how understand each other, relate to each other, and love each other.

VLOG | E1 | From the cold hard reality of existing to the warm loving embrace of caring

How can what's happening in the universe overall relate to why we love each other?

I began working on this issue in the fall of 1982 — starting with “life has to be cared for or it dies.”

Eventually, after understanding that caring is the common denominator of living beings, I had to go further -- does our caring nature relate to the nature of reality?

It does, through existing — see my blog post on January 1, 2018, for a long description of that.

https://discovery-solutions.net/blog/2017/12/30/from-the-universal-law-of-existing-to-mutually-caring-relationships

The Universal law of existing explains energy and fields, interacting and emerging, and everything that is existing.

Living beings continue existing because they are actively existing, actively caring for their continued existing; that's how we — and all living beings — are caring.

For us humans, that's how and why we are loving; we all have the need to be cared for and loved to continue existing, we all have the ability to be caring and loving.

From the cold hard reality of existing throughout the universe becomes the actively existing nature of living beings (wherever that is existing in universe), which becomes the warm loving embrace of caring to us.

Universal Law of Existing: It’s what’s “happening”

Reality is not what we see, it’s what’s “happening.”

We are not what we see, we are what’s “happening.”

Human beings emerge from interacting systems, such as cardiovascular, cognitive, and emotional response systems, among many others.

Drilling further, each human system emerges from interacting cells, cells emerge from interacting molecules, molecules emerge from interacting atoms, and atoms emerge from interacting electrons, neutrons, and protons, or quarks and leptons. And physicists and cosmologists tell us today that quarks and leptons are interacting fields, quantum vibrations of energy, that are always happening, always interacting, emerging into everything we see in the universe.

Finally, interacting and emerging is existing, or the Universal Law of Existing, as described in my January 1, 2018 blog post. Also described in the same blog post, life is “actively existing,” or caring, which, then, is the nature our reality.

To bring this full circle, we are not what we see — we are what’s happening, “actively existing,” or caring.

Relational/Emotional Discovery Workshop: Purpose & Connection; Review & Discoveries

Workshop XI & XII (6/6): Purpose & Connection — In this final workshop, the first half explored the need for purpose and connection, especially as it relates to the joy emotional response. Having covered connection in two workshops on relationships, today focused on finding purpose in daily life, or doing things we love to do, whether at work or play. Review & Discoveries — The other half of this workshop review the many discoveries through the sessions, including primary emotional responses, new understandings, and the importance of relationships

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Relational/Emotional Discovery Workshop: Relationships & The Judgment Phenomenon

Workshop X (5/28): Relationships & The Judgment Phenomenon — In this second workshop on human relationships, participants explored the judgment phenomenon, where our features and characteristics become the judgments about us. How we value each other by these features and characteristics, how that can be very harmful, and how to change that. Judgments were also explained through the prism of primary emotional responses, and participants were encouraged to try looking at themselves and others without judgment, separating the actor from the actions.

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Relational/Emotional Discovery Workshop: Relationships

Workshop IX (5/9): Relationships — Moving to relationships in this discovery workshop, and emphasizing that relationships are the foundation of well-being and mental health. Reviewed research from the Center on the Developing Child, the Stanford Center on Compassion and Altruism, and the Harvard Longitudinal Study, all representing how relationships are the basis for resilience, strong mental health, and life satisfaction. Explored the Relational Model from the Stone Center at Wellesley College, which emphasizes mutually empathic and growth fostering relationships — also from decades of research and practice. Ultimately focused on defining mutually caring relationships, or relationships between people where they “care about each other, believe in each other, and do not judge each other.”

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Relational/Emotional Discovery Workshop: New Understandings

Workshop VIII (5/2): New Discoveries — Participants were reminded that this workshop focuses on three specific interventions that contribute to overall mental health health, and they are brain health, psychological health, and relational health. Today, the focus was psychological health, notably specific insights and interventions from the Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders at Boston University. Included were explorations of Transdiagnostic Emotional Disorders and Mastery of Anxiety and Panic.

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Relational/Emotional Discovery Workshop: New Understandings

Workshop VII (4/25): New Discoveries — Participants analyzed how the four primary emotions become clinical challenges. Where the natural fear response can become exaggerated and continuous to cause anxiety disorders, and where the natural sadness response can become exaggerated and continuous to cause depressive disorders. Also reviewed was a third category, or severe emotional blunting, caused by toxic stress or fear, where there is an experience of emptiness and vapidness.

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Relational/Emotional Discovery Workshop: Brain Plasticity

Workshop VI (4/11): Brain Plasticity — Participants learned about how the brain changes in response to stress, and how it can return to a healthy state through a reduction of stress and the aid of antidepressants. Specifically, neurogenesis in the hippocampus was explored, as well as changes to the size and activity levels of the amygdala, and the implication of these on the stress response and mental health

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Relational/Emotional Discovery Workshop: PTSD/Toxic Stress/Emotional Disorders

Workshop V (4/4): PTSD/Toxic Stress/Emotional Disorders — Participants explored the three levels of the primary emotional responses, or a low/background response, a medium/manageable response, a high/survival response. Also, learning how the highest and chronic levels of emotional responses relate to psychiatric disorders, such as anxiety disorders and depressive disorders.

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Relational/Emotional Discovery Workshop: Primary Emotions -- Key Discoveries

Workshop III (3/21): Primary Emotions: Key Discoveries — Participants further explored more discoveries around primary emotions and what they mean to experience. Important within that is discovering that emotions are not a state, but a response, and always occurring. Also discovering that we are not our emotions, but something we have, that vary in intensity, and tell us what is best or not best for us

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Introducing the Relational/Emotional Discovery Workshop

Starting March 7, this workshop represents an opportunity to learn about successful relational skills, managing your emotions — including anxiety and depression, and effective intervention and treatment strategies, all in the context of a supportive group environment. Sharing, supporting, and encouraging one another, while learning new perspectives and meaningful skills, and adopting the strategies that work best for you.

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The role of primary emotional responses in mental health

As a psychotherapist, I have noticed on an almost daily basis that people experiencing emotional difficulties typically experience three at once, or depression, anxiety, and irritability. I have noticed this so significantly and repeatedly that I created my own diagnostic term for it, or generalized stress response. Because, in the end, each of these three emotions is a response to something stressful.

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